Category: Self Love

MY LITTLE HALAL BLACK DRESS AND WHY YOU SHOULD TREAT YOURSELF TO ONE, TOO

We all know as women we have this habit of putting people before us. We tend to neglect ourselves and put other people’s needs before our own. Especially when we’re married or just after we’ve had a baby. Oh yes, that post-natal neglection is real! I have seen it with so many women and I am probably the guiltiest of it.

And having a little Halal black dress? It’s out of the question, of course. 

My Little Halal Black Dress and why you deserve to treat yourself to one, too! Don't feel guilty for feeling good about yourself. Read through to hear how one sister makes herself feel loved after sacrificing herself for her infants illness.

Why it’s So Important to Remember Ourselves

After giving birth to my son, I went through a period where I would think about him and his health so much more than my own. Especially after he developed Seborrhoea. Seborrhoea is a condition that makes the skin red and itchy with white scales. He was constantly agitated which meant I was at his beck and call with creaming his skin day and night just so it wouldn’t come back.

I was buying him organic products for his skin, organic clothes for him to wear and even went onto buying him organic bed-sheets just so he could sleep comfortably at night (*but that is a story for a different day*). This led to me completely neglecting myself which I hadn’t realized until quite recently.

Alhamdulillah today he is much better and Allah helped my husband and me to get through that tough period. At the time though, I just hadn’t realised how much I had forgotten about myself. I forgot to eat properly, take care of my skin and buy myself nice things especially clothes! I’m quite embarrassed to admit I hadn’t treated myself to anything until a year after he was born!

When I Started To Look After Myself

Yes! It took me a whole year! It took me so long to remember dressing up and making myself feel loved. I concentrated on him so much, I forgot how nice it felt to be able to love myself again, to be able to love my body and to feel good when wearing nice clothes.

Although it is well over-due, I now make sure to take time for myself every now and then. I buy myself something nice for my wardrobe and wear it for special occasions, parties, and girly gatherings or even just at home! I probably steer towards clothing more as it makes quite a significant difference to how I feel.

I have started this new rule, after going through a tough time physically, or emotionally, to take time to treat myself. Why not give it a try too? Remind yourself that you need to be loved. Gift yourself with something nice, it doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant. Just something that will make you feel and look good.

We think you deserve a gift! Be sure to check out the shop to pick up something nice for yourself! 

What I Bought and How It Made Me Feel

In the process of treating myself this month, I bought a few sparkly items for my wardrobe. I bought this gorgeous sequined dress and sparkly shoes. My husband reminded me that I don’t do it enough which really encouraged me
to go for it.

Do you ever get that special new-dress sensation? That distinctive feeling that only a beautiful new dress can give a woman? I can sense some of you ladies nodding at this point as your brain desperately tries to recall the last time you had this feel-good moment.

The lit

It’s one of those odd flashes of bliss that you don’t have to share with anyone – it’s all about you! There is that sparkly buzz when the silky material slides over your skin and, submerged in that irreplaceable new-dress scent, you run your fingers along the flawless seams and the intricate button work, immersing yourself in the work of art that is this magical dress.

A gorgeous snug fit- that you have eternally been searching for- greets you like an old friend full of compliments. You look up in the mirror and for a minute, surprised and shocked that anything could make you look so good, you find yourself lost in that heavenly moment of happiness with a smile that only you know is truly genuine.

In that moment, no matter what is going on around you, you feel good. You feel beautiful. All of a sudden, you love the little curves and bumps on your hips which until this point were mere imperfections that needed perfecting. In that moment you are the better version of you. That’s exactly how I felt when I put on my little halal black dress.

As well as making you look good, all of this “buying clothes”, especially a little Halal black dress, business might sound really materialistic but I am coming from a more self-caring point of view. For example I find it helps me with maintaining a healthy size especially as a wife.

I find looking good for your spouse always has a positive outcome. The empowerment I get when feeling healthy is what I love rather than how slobbish I can feel when constantly wearing my over-sized sweats. Even if you’re not married dressing to make yourself feel good can make so much of a difference to how you appear to yourself.

Other Ways to Love Yourself

Loving myself this month was about buying pretty clothes but there are always other ways in which you can do it and it doesn’t have to include spending money. Spend time on yourself, run yourself a beautiful warm bubble bath, get stuck into that book you’ve been meaning to but never got the time to or simply wear beautiful clothes at home. Just remind yourself you are still important.

Do you have any self love musts you would like to share with us? Leave them in the comments! We always love to inspire our readers with new ways to love themselves more, in shaa Allah!

 

About the Author

Sainab is a Wife and a Mother who recently started her hobby for blogging. As well as writing about home interior and fashion, she also co-founded Barakah London with her Sister. It’s a Fashion line they started a few years back where they hand-make Abayas for personal clients. You can find her sharing her experiences on home, life and love on her blog, Step Inside My Handbag,  and follow her on Instagram.

4 DAILY RITUALS THAT WILL HELP YOU EMBRACE A RADICAL SELF LOVE ROUTINE

Think it is impossible to take time out of your already busy day to just add something new? We think that is purely an excuse! Read on as sister Umm Hafsa shares 4 Daily Rituals that will help you embrace a radical self love routine. 

The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. When this relationship changes and evolves, make no mistake that your external life will reflect these changes too. It’s no accident that when I’m busting with love and overflowing with inner happiness, the people around me reflect that back.

It’s no accident that when I truly trust that Allah will provide for me, I have new clients and opportunities knocking on my door. Here I’m going to share 4 ways to flex you self-love muscle, so that you can show up as the most happiest and vibrate version of you.

Give Yourself Compliments

You go through your day magnifying your mistakes and criticising every non-existent flaw you could possibly have, so why not change the daily dialogue you have with yourself? There was a period in my life that no matter how hard I tried, I was constantly feeling depressed and unmotivated.

I was seriously questioning quitting my blog and felt so useless. In that moment, I noticed how all my thoughts were beyond negative and weighing me down. No wonder I felt so awful!

Since that moment, I’ve made a conscious decision to check in with my thoughts and feed positivity into my mind. That’s why I love and highly recommend complementing yourself on a daily basis. It raises your energetic vibration and often leaves me in silent giggles. Every time you walk pass a mirror or mess up, compliment yourself.

My favourite comments include: ‘You’re such a babe’, ‘You – you’re smoking!’ ‘Girl, you’re on fire!’ ‘You’re seriously so gorgeous’.

Would that not make you smile? Would you still take yourself so seriously after that? I highly doubt. You’re been thinking negatively for so long and it hasn’t worked, so why not give this a try?

Spend 5 Minutes Every Morning On Yourself

Beauty. There’s no denying it.  As women, beauty is such an integral part of our femininity. Life gets busy and we’re the first ones to put our needs on the back stove. When you wake up, it’s so easy to rush into the day and forget that your still in your pyjamas (guilty!). For those reasons, spend 5 minutes every morning on you. Specifically on your appearance and clothes.

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Even if you’re a stay at home mother or work from home, dressing beautifully can do wonders for your self esteem and confidence and is an important key when embracing your own radical self love routine. I noticed the days that I quickly flick on mascara, softly smudge a black/brown eye liner around my eyes, I feel so much more beautiful. I’ve seen grandmothers who can barely walk, still find the time to pencil in their eyebrows. It’s because beauty is such an integral need for us women.

Work On Your Passions

If you don’t nourish this part of yourself, it’ll show up in many other ways. You’ll be the cranky wife and mother constantly nagging at your husband and children (for control) because you’re feeling so lost deep within yourself. You’ll drown yourself in marathons of TV dramas and movies because you’ve ignored that spark, calling you to something greater.

Passion is what makes life exciting. Passion is what gives you something to do other than centering your entire life around your husband all day. I see this with my clients – the moment a marriage proposal comes into their life, they drop everything and give their entire heart and attention to a man they barely know.

That’s why passion is so important. Passion keeps you grounded. Passion says ‘I’ll keep my life going, regardless of what happens’. Once you commit to your passions, you literally light up. People will tell you how happy and joyful you are. People will notice that you no longer complain about feeling tired anymore.

Your passions are unique to you. Not all passions are destined to make you money. Not all passions are destined to make you an expert. Some things you’ll do just because it makes you happy. That’s a good enough reason to start today.

Commit To A Daily Health Ritual

The epitome of self-love is taking care of you. Let’s face it, that includes the way we nourish our bodies. I’ve never met anybody who feels fantastic after diving into a tub of ben and jerry’s ice-cream, that’s not radical self love. I’ve never seen anybody with skyrocket energy after brimming their stomachs with plates of food.

Whilst I can spend forever talking to you about eating for nourishment and love, there’s one tip that’s life-changing. That is to commit to one daily health ritual – that you find easy to follow and can commit to whole-heartedly.

For me it’s green tea. I’ve been drinking this stuff for years and on average 2 cups a day. I went through a period of drinking mugs of green tea daily and would carry extra tea bags with me – just in case if I need it. I travel abroad with my trusty packets of Clippers green tea. If that’s missing from my kitchen cupboards, I’ll be hunting down the closest convenience store – even at 8pm.

If you’re feeling stuck, here are a few suggestions: ginger tea, 2 litres of water, stretching, turmeric latte, salad once a day, getting your greens  in at least one meal/snack, sleeping early, bone broth, daily smoothies/juices, warm lemon water with honey.

What is it for you? What one health ritual could you commit to for a lifetime? What one health ritual makes you feel amazing? It needs to be easy and something that you genuinely enjoy.

About the Author

Umme Hafsa is a life coach, blogger, self-love advocate and alimiyyah graduate. Her mission is to inspire Muslim women to create a beautiful life, infused with love, fiercely igniting their soul to manifest their wildest dreams. You can find her on her blog, Inspired and Fabulous.

 

How to Love and Embrace your Body Unconditionally as a Muslim Woman

Is it truly possible to love and embrace your body in a world that’s telling you not to? Is it possible to stop comparing ourselves to society’s limited idea of beauty?

Chelsea from Muslimah Healthy shares with us her story on her past struggles with body image, and shares with us her tips on how to love and embrace your body unconditionally as a Muslim Woman.

I spent many years of my life hating my body and wishing to look like the women in magazines. I was never happy with my appearance. It started out with innocently wanting to lose a few pounds and quickly spiraled into an eating disorder.

No matter how thin I got, I wanted more.

The thing is, we tend to think that changing our body is going to make us happier or more confident in our appearance. What I’ve learned is that it is not our bodies at all that need changing. It is our thoughts.

We need to focus on changing our body image, not our bodies. The definition of body image is a person’s perceptions and attitudes about their body and about how other’s perceive their body. You can’t love something that you think negatively about. We need to stop concerning ourselves with what our body

We need to stop concerning ourselves with what our body should look like, and start focusing on what it does look like and why that is beautiful. We need to learn healthy thought processes and positive ways of perceiving our bodies in order to embrace them for all that they are.

As someone who went from hating her body so much that she wouldn’t give it its basic right of food to someone who now genuinely loves her body and cares about keeping it healthy, I would say it’s 100% possible to learn how to love your body.

I am completely recovered and I never have to urge to be as thin as I once was. That doesn’t mean that I think my body is perfect. That doesn’t mean I am complacent. Of course, there are aspects of my body, and of myself, that I want to improve. It’s just that I no longer hate those parts of me. They are who I am and they give me the push I need to become better.

Here are some of the steps I’ve taken that have helped me to completely change my relationship with my body.

Focus on Health and How You Feel

It should not be all about looks!

It’s OK to want to lose weight. It’s OK to want to work on your body. And it is necessary to be comfortable in your own skin. But this is not what it should be all about. Focusing on your inner health and wellbeing before your appearance will give you a deeper sense of meaning and gratification.

Nourish your body with healthy food not to get the perfect body but to be healthy, strong and energized. Exercise as a way to relieve your daily stress. Think of these healthy habits as wonderful things you are doing for yourself.

When you take the pressure off of yourself and start focusing on how your inner being can benefit, everything else will follow.

Compliment Yourself Daily

Girl you are amazing! You are beautiful. You are strong. You are capable of so much. Stop focusing on all of the things you dislike about yourself and focus on all of the wonderful, phenomenal, incredible things that make you, YOU!

Give yourself daily compliments. When you’re at the mirror getting ready don’t be afraid to tell yourself that you look beautiful. What do you love about yourself? Say it out loud!

Anytime you find those negative self-thoughts creeping up, reverse it with something positive. With time those positive thoughts will start to come naturally.

Practice Gratitude

Did you know that, when awake, the human body produces enough electricity to power a small light bulb? Did you know that the human eye can distinguish about 10 million different colors? Did you know that your body produces 25 million new cells each second?

Our bodies are astounding. They are so much more than what is apparent. Release negative self-thoughts and remember how truly amazing you’re body is. Be grateful each and every day for all of the good it brings you. Be grateful for the simple fact that you’re body works day in and day out with no rest to keep you alive, subhanAllah!

Most importantly, remember that these bodies of ours were made by Al-Musawwir (The Shaper of Beauty). How then can you ever feel not pretty enough?

Treat Your Body to Something Special

When you love someone, you want that person to feel special. You might buy that person gifts to make them feel good. Treat your body the same way. Take a scented bath, spend the day at a spa, or indulge in some of your favorite chocolates.

Do anything that makes you feel connected to your body. Once you start treating your body like its special it will eventually become a priority.

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Understand That You Can Love Yourself While Working to Become Better

Know that loving your body does not mean you think it is perfect. You are allowed to have flaws and you are allowed to recognize those flaws. The key is learning to accept your imperfections and work and them little by little.

You are allowed to love yourself while working to become a better version of you.

Loving your body takes a lot of work and effort. It won’t happen overnight but with these simple tools you can slowly learn how to love and accept your body by changing the negative beliefs about yourself and turning them into positive, loving, caring thoughts.

 

What are three things you love about yourself? What is one thing you can do every day to show your body some love? Share below!

About the author

Chelsea is a blogger, Certified Personal Trainer and Nutritionist specializing in Healthy Eating for Weight Loss. She is passionate about healthy, natural living and Islamic Medicine. She wishes to inspire other women to live more natural and healthy lives for the sake of Allah (swt). You can find her on her blog, Muslimah Healthy.